The Importance of Not Going To The Gym


Photography by Ryan Winterbotham

The pressure to exercise has been growing rapidly over the past few years. The expectation to be active, fit and healthy is higher than ever. When I first started this blog it was a 50/50 split of Fashion and Fitness. That’s something I recently announced I’m going back to.

I will always love exercising and always highlight the importance of it. But to kick off my process of going back to 50/50 Fashion and Fitness I want to start by highlighting the importance of not going to the gym.

One of the side effects of grief is loss of appetite. I’ve suffered with this greatly. Since Dylan died I’ve been trying hard to eat enough and eat regularly but it’s been a struggle.

With this post I wanted to share the message that if you haven’t eaten enough, you should not go to the gym. Not only will you not have enough energy to exercise well, you will likely enter a massive caloric deficit. If, like me, your intention is to build muscle and strength it will stunt your progress. It will make you feel weak, tired and moody.


I’m not a nutritionist, a personal trainer or any kind of fitness expert in any sense, so please don’t take my words as gospel truth. I’m just sharing my personal experiences.

There are so many accounts dedicated to fitness now. On blogs or on social media. It’s easy to take inspiration from these people, and rightly so, but I think a lot of us forget that for the majority it is their job to exercise. Whether they’re fitness bloggers, bodybuilders or athletes, they dedicate their lives to getting their bodies to peak physical condition.

For the average Joe it’s just not attainable. If you have a 9-5 you don’t want to be going to the gym 5 times a week and you don’t need to.

I used to go to the gym 6 or 7 days a week, often twice in a day. It was too much. I became obsessed. I muddled my priorities. I rejected invitations to meals out with my family and friends, all because I was too concerned with eating chicken and rice and going to the gym.

This seems crazy to me now because everyone knows my family and friends are my highest priority.

I love exercising and eating my greens but I also love going out for meals, scoffing cake and slobbing out. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that and neither should you. I’m a strong believer in a balanced life.

So if you haven’t eaten enough, you didn’t get enough sleep last night or there’s a dinner party you’d really rather go to, skip the gym today. You might just find it’s better for your health.



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