5 Things I’ve Learnt In My First Week Living Away From Home


Last week flew past me. I’m feeling super settled in our lovely little apartment now, but it has been really weird moving away from home for the first time, so here’s a few things I’ve learnt in my first week.



I’m a Terrible Cook.

Really terrible. I knew I wasn’t very good at cooking when I lived at home, but I thought I would at least be able to throw something half decent together- I can’t. I appreciate cooking takes a long time to master but like all skills: some people just don’t get it, and I fear I’m one of those people (for now I will blame it on the fact we didn’t have scales so I had to guess measurements…).


You Have to Buy So Many Random Things. 

Even staying at a fully furnished apartment, we were missing loads of random knickknacks and gizmos we didn’t even realise we use all the bloody time- and they’re weirdly expensive for what they are. Kitchen scales, cheese-grater, shower curtain, a ladle, one of those vegetable steamer things that goes over the saucepan??

What would we do without IKEA?

Oh and condiments! Bloody hell. Salt & pepper shakers, spices, ketchup, olive oil, soy sauce, the list goes onnnnnnnnn.


Days Feel Much Longer. 

I’m getting so much done- it’s madness. I do miss my morning routine of eating breakfast while watching shit TV with mum (for what felt like 15 minutes but was actually two hours). And you wouldn’t believe how much more time you have when you don’t have dogs. I’m pretty sure I spent over half my time at home playing with the dogs- I really miss them though, they sadly don’t understand FaceTime.


The Highs are Higher but the Lows are Lower. 

I’ve been really enjoying living here. I’m loving city life- it’s so convenient. Bath is beautiful and work is a million times easier here. I’ve had days where I’m overwhelmingly happy but they seem to have been balanced by overwhelmingly sad days. I don’t feel like I’m finding it difficult to adjust, I felt settled almost immediately, I just keep having really down days where I struggle to do anything. I’m hoping it’s just because it’s such a big change, and it will get better over time.


I Don’t Feel Like an Adult. 

I thought everyone felt like this but Sam said he feels like an adult so now I’m worried. I feel like a child. I don’t feel immature in the slightest, I just feel like I’m not a ‘grown-up’. As if someone’s going to turn up at our door and be like “Come on Chloe, stop messing around, time to go home”- Since when have I been old enough to rent an apartment? Bizarre.


I’d love to know- what did you learn when you moved away for the first time?




  1. January 18, 2018 / 10:29 pm

    All these things are so true! I remember my first week at uni, having to buy things that I’d never thought about before because they were always just there, like sellotape and silver foil.

    This week on my blog I wrote a post on the same sort of theme, but about the lessons I’ve learnt living abroad to mark 6 years living in Barcelona. It’s such a big change it’s understandable to have the highs and lows but you’ll soon find things calming down I’m sure, just enjoy all these new experiences!


  2. Khad - @thebeautyfront
    January 18, 2018 / 11:08 pm

    So I can completely relate to this! I moved out for the first time when I got married – and it’s still so hard! You get used to the ‘lonliness’ after a while, but I always miss my mum! It’s part of growing up I suppose, but it doesn’t mean we feel like adults! You’re doing great and it’s beneficial for you there for blogging etc… just take every day as it comes! X

  3. Julie
    January 19, 2018 / 7:55 am

    Hi ! Nice post. Reminds me of my move.. and yeah, all the money flying away for the daily stuff I didn’t think about (pealer, chopping board and all the kitchen accessories ha…struggle was real x)

    Thing I’ve learn too is that I really like living by myself. I absolutely love my family, but how nice it feels to .. so thing by my own in a way. I love it.

    About cooking .. the little advice I can give you is to give yourself time ! Learning takes time. So yeah, you will probably fail few other dishes, probably. But if every time you figure out what was wrong, you’ll be better next time 🙂 don’t see yourself as a bad cook. See yourself as a learner, or an apprentice haha. I personally enjoy cooking and I still fail here and there but no drama. Doesn’t make me less of a human (actually ..😂 )

  4. January 19, 2018 / 10:11 am

    I went to boarding school pretty early on in MJ life so when I moved away for the first time when I was at university I found it easy enough. The challenge was always moving back home after but I’ve adjusted now and looking forward to me and my fiancé buying our own place soon and living together away from the family. X

    • chloehelenmiles
      January 24, 2018 / 4:15 pm

      Thank you! xx

  5. January 31, 2018 / 10:30 pm

    Love how honest you are about how your feeling. I moved out when I was at University so I am just used to it now, definitely miss someone doing my washing and cleaning for me and always having a full fridge though haha. Would love a post on places you have been to in Bath since you moved? I’ve never been before but going for a weekend next month! Xxx


  6. Lucy Bonette
    February 28, 2018 / 4:04 pm

    I was the opposite, I was so excited and ready to move out and start university etc. It was so busy, maybe I had less time to spend on my own to experience lows.

    I had already learnt to cook at home. I had 5 different simple meals I could cook well, so that wasn’t an issue.

    I did not feel like an adult. But I still don’t and I’m in my mid-30s.

    But yes, there were so many things to buy! Although I lived a shared flat, so lots of things were already there (I’m from Amsterdam by the way).

  7. Emma Alexander
    March 21, 2018 / 8:40 pm

    I’m 52 and I still don’t feel like an adult! Shocking i know but I don’t think I’m alone. Don’t worry that you feel that way, you’ll end up doing lots of adult things but still not really feel like one. Or maybe you will. I feel like all the ages I’ve been, some more grown up than others. What is being an adult? I don’t think it sounds much fun, so I wouldn’t be in a hurry to get there. Like that Birthday card I’ve seen ‘ Don’t grow up it’s a trap!’. Have fun x

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